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Who controls your medical and financial decisions when you’re alone and sick or dying?

  • Writer: Paul Premack
    Paul Premack
  • May 25, 2016
  • 2 min read

This column first appeared in the San Antonio Express-News on May 2, 2016.


Dear Mr. Premack: I have an issue that I thought was unique, but am discovering is more common than I thought. I am alone. I do not have any family who can look out for me if I become ill or if I die. I do have friends, but the closest ones are older than I am and the others are more in the acquaintance category. What options do people like me, who have no close relatives, have for doing our legal planning? – RM

When you are alone, your options include:

> The Money Management Program, a volunteer organization run locally by Catholic Charities and funded partially by the taxpayers. To qualify, you must be 55 or older, live in Bexar County, and be low income. A volunteer will be arranged to help with a budget and to help pay bills. Clearly this is limited and does not meet all the needs presented, nor is everyone able to use this service.

> Calling upon an Accountant. You can ask your CPA or other accounting professional if their office provides a bill paying service. They would charge a fee for their service, and it would very likely not include helping in the event of a medical crisis.

> Guardianship. If you make no plans at all, when you become disabled the courts may appoint a volunteer Guardian. You do not want this to happen, as it is expensive and you will never have met the person who becomes your Guardian.

> Using a Bank Trust Department with a fully funded Living Trust or with a Standby Trust arrangement. With a Standby Trust your attorney helps by drafting a Trust and a Power of Attorney. The Trust remains “unfunded,” receiving only a token amount of money so it can exist legally. You give the Power of Attorney and Trust to the bank with instructions to gather the rest of your assets together if you become disabled. The bank has no powers while you are well. If you are disabled, the bank must act quickly to provide you with assistance.

If you become disabled, then you must have someone who will contact the bank, but the bank will handle the details of your finances. If you pass away before the bank has time to gather your assets, then your Will must go to probate. This is not an ideal solution, but it is a workable solution for those who are alone and have adequate financial resources to pay the bank’s fee.

A fully funded Living Trust, on the other hand, becomes owner of all your assets when you create it. You give it title to your home, your savings and your investments. You name yourself as manager of the assets, and the bank as alternate. They wait to charge a fee until you are disabled. However, when they do take over, the Living Trust already possesses your resources. If the fully funded Living Trust is established correctly, care is provided to you and probate is avoided. As such, I generally recommend fully funded living trusts instead of standby trusts.

Medical decision-making is much more difficult to delegate when you are alone. Your doctor cannot be appointed as your medical decision-maker as there is a conflict of interest.  A bank or an accountant will not, generally, agree to be your medical surrogate. You may, however, feel more open to asking friends to take this duty as you will have already made other arrangements for your financial management. Your friends would not be handling your money, just communicating your medical preferences to your physician.

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Paul Premack is a Certified Elder Law Attorney (CELA®) through the National Elder Law Foundation, with decades of experience helping individuals and families navigate estate planning and elder law. Licensed in both Texas and Washington, Paul advises clients on Estate Planning, Wills, Living Trusts, Durable Powers of Attorney, Medical Powers of Attorney, and Probate (probate limited to Bexar County, Texas at this time). Clients value Paul’s clear, practical communication — he takes time to explain options in plain language, answers questions directly, and keeps matters moving with steady follow-through. Known for his dedication and responsiveness, Paul works to be available when clients need guidance and reassurance. He previously served as President of the Texas Chapter of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys (NAELA) and remains an active NAELA member. Beginning in 1989, Paul also wrote a legal column for Hearst Newspapers around the USA. We have offices in San Antonio, Texas and Olympia, Washington. All our consultations are handled via Zoom or telephone so you never have to leave home to work with Paul Premack. Paul is also associated as Of Counsel with Premack Rogers Downs PC to handle their estate planning clients.

 

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